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THE ENDLESS WAVE | PART TWO
practices in processing grief encourage the bereaved to find something to do that distracts them, to keep them from thinking about their loved ones. For some, they might focus on work, thereby working longer hours, while others may turn to alcohol or other substances so they can forget about their perceived loss.
Building upon the discussions that we have been sharing about life and the Af- terlife, the passing of a loved one is not the end of their existence or their rela- tionship with you. Your air at the other side of the transition, your grind, slide, stall or invert on the coping of grief takes on form through the ways that you cultivate, experience and express the continued relationship that you have with the dearly departed in order to celebrate and preserve their existence.
Some of the ways that you could skate this coping and keep your relationship thriving include:
• Celebrating their special occasions that were meaningful for them such as
birthdays,
• Carrying out a community project in dedication to the dearly departed,
• Connecting through dreams by looking at a photo of them and asking them
for a visitation before you go to sleep (when you are ready for it),
• Editing together their photos and memorable videos to share with others,
• Keeping belongings that had significant importance to them,
• Listening to their favourite music and songs that remind you of them,
• Recognising the messages and signs that they are communicating to you
from the other side,
• Setting aside quiet time to talk to them in your Mind and
• Visiting places that were meaningful for them.
One of the most beautiful beyond worlds’ friendships that I have witnessed grow over the years was between two best friends. He kept his best friend’s skateboard and dedicated one day a year of skating on this skateboard at the very spot where they first met and grew up skating together. He also took this skateboard with him to skate at Love Park, Philadelphia, which was a very monumental street skating spot that these two best friends used to dream of going to together.
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