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THE ENDLESS WAVE | PART TWO
There are two paths that exist for a skater that has focussed their skateboard. They can be stuck in the past, being angry and frustrated at themselves for not landing their trick or for having a bad day on their skateboard. Moping around, dragging the vibe of the session down and being annoyed for the day. Or there is the reflective path that looks forwards, and they reflect on the possibilities that could have been if their board wasn’t deliberately broken, like “what if I took a break and gave this trick a few more tries?”, “what if I calmed myself down, reflected on the experience of trying and tried a different approach next time?”. A skateboard can be easily replaced by going to the local skate shop and choosing a new board from the shelf and it doesn’t take much to be back in action again.
In between the regrets of their choices, the words said and not said, the things done and not done, suicide victims are looking for a way out and somewhere to leave the situation that they are in. Suicide is typically deemed as the less forgiving, less desirable path because of the loss of life, the impact that it leaves on family and friends and the religious-influenced perspective towards it of someone going to Hell or living out their days in a punishing environ- ment. From what I have seen in suicide victims when they’ve appeared to me, they’re usually filled with sadness, grief and regret. Only once they’ve left, have they realised what and who they leave behind and have an impact on.
At times, they don’t know that they’ve died, like they can’t believe that they actually followed through with the act and are caught between the world of the living and the next.
Sometimes, they are living out a looped experience of their pain and hurts. This is the Hell that they put themselves through. They’re not going to burn for an eternity however, as there is the opportunity for redemption once they become aware of their passing, go to the light and cross over to the other side.
All suicide victims go through a similar process to any other kind of death experience. Once they cross over, they have the opportunity to reflect on their life experience, observe the world from their new perspective, watch over their loved ones and choose another experience on earth at a later time, if they desire.
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